The disease ‘likes to please others’ when “The child feels as if they are in danger, needs to appease their caregiver in order to have a connection back mentally.”
Jaclyn Bsales, a psychotherapist in the US, said: “The child feels as if they are in danger, needs to appease their caregiver in order to have a connection back mentally.”
On the surface, Jones was selfless and kind. However, few people know that he is struggling with wounds that cannot be healed every day.
“I often hear people’s compliments. At some point, I became insensitive. They don’t mean anything to me anymore,” Jones said.
Other than opposing or evasive reactions, wanting to please others is often overlooked when it comes to the manifestation of psychological trauma.
However, Dr. Bsales cautions against equating this with altruism. It can cause patients to hide their true aspirations and lose their identity.
“Sometimes, they affect their ability to form personalities, set boundaries, and see their own feelings and needs, because they’re now so focused on other people’s thoughts,” Bsales says.
Jones’s desire to please everyone disappears as he seriously looks inward and reflects on his past, namely his relationship with his father.
Eventually, he learned that it was normal to prioritize his own needs, even though it sometimes disappointed others.
As he began to set limits and learn to say no, Jones lost many friends. However, he thinks this is important for the journey of self-healing.
As an expert on domestic violence and anxiety disorders, Dr. Bsales agrees that the first step in recovery is to be self-aware of your problem.
